sorry 92gen2, didnt mean that to sound rude or snooty (snooty...snotty?) - it was meant for the moderators

you're probably right about ported giving you more output, but its also the likely cause of the group delay you are hearing. Why not give it a go in a sealed enclosure (maybe 3db quieter but sounds less like crape), or post up the specs (Qts, Qes, Vas etc) so someone can model them and see what the best box is for that sub.
I suggested swapping the speaker wire at the sub because this changes the phase of the sub - instead of the cone pushing out at a given moment, it now pulls in. Do a search for phase in this section to get some more info.
As for headunits, you could try looking in the "for sale" section here, as units with time alignment do come up regularly for sale, and cheap too, if you know what you're looking for.
I'm not convinced that time alignment will solve all of the problems you are hearing, thats all...
good luck!