I have figured out a way of tuning my EQ which I would like to share with you all.
Some of you might not like it but it is working for me and I am sure this will help some people.
The music I listen to is electronic such as house and hi-nrg but it should work for other genres.
What you will need is a good audio source(such as computer with a soundblaster card) and a pair of decent headphones to use with it, this is to use as a reference.
I have a 13 band EQ in my car but most MP3 players are only 10band, so I got a plugin for winamp so it could have a 13 band, the plugin also has a 31 band.
I done the EQ tuning 1 frequency at a time and the very high and very low frequencies are the easiest to do.
Now lets say you want to tune 400Hz.
Go through a few songs quickly on your reference source with everything flat except for the frequency you want to tune, have that almost all the way up at around +9dB. Keep listening and you will eventually get to an instrument or sample that it will drastically change the sound of, if you are not sure go over it with that frequency all the way down, if you were correct it should be barely audible. In my case boosting 400Hz made some basslines more characteristic and less of a generic "donk". I then played that same part of the song in my car fiddling with 400Hz to get it where I thought was a good balance of having the character of the bassline audible but not overpowering the actual bass.
The same goes for other frequencies, the trick is to find a particular part of a song or 2 that is changed most by the change in the frequency, and to keep going over it, you can do this without another audio source but headphones have the advantage of superior clarity so its much more easier to find out what the ranges are actually doing to your music.

